Stephen Gritton, was born in 1969, but he only really started “growing up” at the age of twenty-nine.
In the September of 1998 he was knocked over by a car and sustained a serious head-injury. This is a mild euphemism for a major issue – brain-damage!
Initially Stephen’s left arm was paralysed; he couldn’t follow a conversation and was continually fatigued.
It is said that when the brain is damaged, most of the recovering happens within two years, with minimal gains in function occurring after two years for up to ten years.
Stephen regained the use of his left arm quickly enough, but this was substituted for epilepsy. He can now follow a conversation, but has been diagnosed with “aphasia” which means word finding difficulties. The words are in his brain, but some of the time he can’t immediately recall one – usually a key word or phrase whilst conversing. Obviously this can make holding a conversation difficult, though with several “coping strategies” you almost wouldn’t know there was an issue.
He also has bi-polar, poor memory and still experiences waves of extreme tiredness.
Stephen had a lot to cope with – especially with two small children and no easy way to structure his life. People with brain-injuries need structure and orderliness. All those with children understand that this is difficult to achieve when the children are young at least.
He had to come up with a scheme that allowed him to cope. He had to learn to help himself. With research and practice and by learning new skills, Stephen has worked out a system that allows him to be efficient almost by accident. His system has moved him from an almost broken man to a man with a path to a clear destiny.
This methodology is so simple that, if Stephen can do it, so can anybody – and he wants to SHARE his methods with you.
Stephen – that’s me by the way – did you guess? (Hello, it’s really nice to meet you.) Stephen … <a-hem>
I know that a large percentage of people are not where they want to be in life. They are on a path, but whether they recognise it or not, it is not the right one.
If you are not on the right path, you are probably mildly depressed! It in turn leads to a general malaise. It’s inevitable.
Let’s remind ourselves of what “malaise” means.
- Do you have a sense of disquiet?
- Do you feel uncomfortable?
You know how you feel and the following observation is the reason: you are not going in the right direction!
Out of this malaise usually comes procrastination. This is another symptom of a person on the wrong path, be that the wrong job, or in a wrong relationship, or in some other wrong situation. Procrastination is a kind of self-sabotage. It leads the sufferer – and believe me, a procrastinator is suffering – to a kind of helplessness.
Procrastination and the sense of helplessness, leads to depression, which causes someone to procrastinate and feel helpless even more. This feedback loop is destructive.
A person on this hamster wheel of going no where fast – probably doesn’t get projects completed on time.
- He or she, is often running late for appointments.
- He or she can be quite tetchy
- or plainly bad-tempered
- on occasion he might be “sharp” with others to say the least.
This is not a happy place to be. Depression, sickness, eating the wrong things, eating too much, dependency – smoking, drinking or worse.
A straw could break this camel’s back.
One seemingly insignificant occurrence could have unforeseen circumstances. I want to help you to avoid this car crash. Let’s give you the right map. It is possible to turn it around, figure it all out and get on the right route with a clear and desirable destiny!
Once on the right train, the underlying cause of unhappiness evaporates. The constipation passes! Feeling lighter, brighter and more in tune with yourself, the lifting of your malaise immediately relieves some of the depression. A person on this train finds it easier to eat healthily. He or she would be more easily motivated to exercise. No longer procrastinating, he or she has time to take care of things. House and home and life becomes efficient. No longer dashing here or there, no longer in danger of snapping.
Oh, on and on I lecture, ever in danger of patronising you, but I don’t need to. I know that this has struck a chord with you. I think I have your attention.
I’ll share with you what I know. My insights are yours for the taking and the running with. Subscribe to this blog for snippets, tips and tricks and recommendations and tools which will see you through. I’m on your side; I’ve got your back, let’s see where it takes us.
Well, now you know a little bit about me and what motivates me. In the third person, I’ve told you about my index moment in 1998 and what I’ve had to deal with. Did you have it as bad? Worse? No? No matter; I’ll help you to the other side. Stay with me.